Dear Grace...

I have a sister who makes my life miserable. She makes fun of me, especially in front of my friends. And sometimes she takes things that matter to me and wrecks them. What can I do?


Dear Jasmine,

It’s awful to be the target of a sibling’s mischief or meanness. So what do we do?

Matthew 18:15-17: “If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you've made a friend. If he won't listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again. If he still won't listen, tell the church. If he won't listen to the church, you'll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God's forgiving love.” (The Message).

Here we have God’s game plan for conflict. Start by talking to the person themselves, giving them the opportunity to hear you and stop their actions/words. Let them know they are bothering you. Give them some time to change.

Then if nothing improves, talk to both your parents. Sit down and explain what has happened and that you took biblical action in confronting them and leaving time for them to change. It will show courage and godly thinking. Ask them to talk to the sibling also.

I know it sounds hard but unless you act courageously, nothing will change. Taking these actions is far better than punching them or screaming at them. It’s God’s master plan to help us get along with everyone.

That seems like a very good place to start! May our God lead you wisely on His paths of peace.

Love Grace