Dear Grace...

I'm so mad at my parents—they are so distant and almost non-existent. They are never there. Does God forgive me if I can't forgive them?


You feel pain. You have been hurt by the people who are the closest to you, your parents. You are broken. Part of you cries, while another part is angry. So what do you do? You want to lash out, to hurt them back. By not forgiving them, you think you are hurting them. However, you are holding your hurt hostage. You have become a prisoner within yourself. 

There is a story told of a woman who was repeatedly hurt. Her heart longed for love, the security of someone close. Women in her time and culture, were a commodity. They were used; when a man chose, he could divorce her, toss her out on the street. No one offered her love or compassion. Jesus saw all the things she had done wrong, but He also saw a hurting child, who had been abused, abandoned; and was unloved. She was caught doing something against their law—and the men in her community were ready to stone her—as their law said they could. Jesus said to the men, armed with stones to kill her: "Anyone here who has never sinned can throw the first stone.” Every man walked away; knowing he had sinned. Jesus said to her: "I also do not judge you guilty. You may go now, but sin no more" (John 8:7-11).

Jesus reached out to her in love. He forgave. His love filled her, gave her worth and value. His forgiveness, released her from her sin, and her obedience, if she chose, would offer the same to others.

He knew that when she repeated the act of love shown her, she would find peace within herself. 

Jesus offers the same to you. He loves you and knows you’re hurt. Is forgiveness easy? No. Is it possible? Yes. Allow Gods love to fill you up, then it will overflow onto others. Then forgiveness is given.

You are greatly loved by a merciful and forgiving God. He loved you so much that He died for you, and calls you to eternal life with Him (John 3:16).