Dear Grace...

I am a 20-year-old studying to be a teacher. I have waited and waited for God to bring the right man into my life. I am finding it hard to be patient.

Patricia

Dear Patricia,

Patience is something that takes many of us a long time to perfect, but it is a virtue worth the work.

When I was a little girl, our home would become a hub of activity whenever my grandparents would visit. Love, laughter, food, good conversations and hugs abounded. When I knew a visit was coming I would sit and wait on our front lawn. I would look up and down the street searching for their car. I would continually ask my mother when they would arrive and she would always answer the same: “soon,” “wait,” and “be patient.” It was hard to be patient. Sometimes she would give me a pleasant task and the next thing I knew, they had arrived! I just needed to change my focus.

Continue to trust God! He knows you. He loves you and desires for you to have a full life. “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).

Change your search to refining the fruit of the Spirit in your life—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness and self-control. Practise them on everyone you meet, especially those who challenge you or treat you in a negative way. Speaker Andy Stanley puts it this way, “become the person, you are looking for.” In other words, create in your character those things you desire to be in your future boyfriend/husband. 

Then be content knowing you are living in God’s plan. Tomorrow may bring wonderful surprises.

Grace