Dear Grace...

My church sucks. The music and service are so boring. I like the kids in youth group, but the adults always look suspicious of us—never seems like they really want us to be here. Whenever we suggest changes they just look at us and tell us we don't understand. Will I ever feel like I'm wanted here?


Dear Brian,

You are wanted! Jesus loves you! He is calling you into a personal relationship with Him. Because the relationship each of us has with Jesus is personal, our walks are different but, hopefully continually growing and changing. 

The Church is a family of God's people. But we are just a bunch of sinners, living under His mercy. We need to remind ourselves of that often and be generous in forgiveness and grace. We need to overlook the flaws of others as easily as we overlook our own.

Suspicious looks will change when politeness, kindness and respect are shown. Open doors, offer a cushion for comfort, speak encouraging words, or give a smile. You have connected with the youth group which is a great starting point. As a group, offer to hold an evening service once a month— running the show from set-up to clean-up. Together take on some of the behind-the-scenes work of the church. Form a band or a choir. Pray. Brainstorm other ideas and be patient as the church watches you grow. Be creative and have fun.

Most importantly remember worship is not about us. It is about our great God. He alone deserves our praise, honour and worship. It is as much about what we take away as what we bring to the altar on Sunday.  

“Now you are the body of Christ and each one of you is a part of it” (1 Corinthians 12:27).

God still walks and moves in the midst of His church. You and the youth group are part of His church, just as the other—older—folks are. Trust God to show you a way.