I have a story for you. Not too long ago, a few months ago actually, I was sitting on my bedroom floor editing a video for an upcoming presentation. My friend was on my bed with her computer doing her own thing.
After some time of frequent giggling and of her constantly smiling at the computer screen, I wandered over to her computer to see the source of her weird behavior.
My friend had ventured onto an online chatting site, and was talking to a boy she had met on the Internet from somewhere hundreds of miles away. It was not until she started to pull off her top that I realized just what was going on. My friend had been silently contemplating whether or not to take off her top for a while beforehand, and had decided that since she would probably not ever meet this stranger, that it was OK to do so. Given that I have never been the kind of person to do that kind of stuff, I was appalled! I closed her laptop, and just stared at her. I questioned her reasoning, and I got angry at her for not seeing the fault in what she was about to do.
I was holding her to Christian morals because I just assumed that was the standard for everyone, but I was wrong. I can't expect her to hold to my Christian morals when she herself is not a Christian. I shouldn't have reacted the way I did, by getting angry and expecting her to follow behavioural codes that we’d never discussed.
I later called her and apologized for how I reacted. I did request that I would prefer for her not to go on those websites while she was at my house in the future, but I apologized for over-reacting and getting angry.
All I can really do now is advise her not to go on those sites if ever she asks for my advice, and to continue to pray that God will watch over her, and help her to one day want to talk to Him and not some guy on the Internet.
It’s scary to “give a reason for the hope we have” (1 Peter 3:15) But when we trust in God He gives us the words to be able to share our faith in God with other people. I want nothing more than to have my friend come to faith and have a relationship with God and to have hope that only God can truly give. I will keep praying that He uses my words and actions to His glory.